Someone has done something. You are so hurt. You are angry! You can feel the tightness in your chest, the feeling that something is stuck in the top of your throat, the burning in your eyes, the edginess in your arms and feet - you want to do something, hit out, say something cutting, but what? Breathe. Deep in through your nose. Strong exhale through your mouth. Stop for a minute. Think. Did this person do what they did intentionally? Was their purpose to stick it to you or

What is it with us accepting bullying behaviour and then whining about it to everyone who will listen? Have I touched a nerve? Good. It's time to get pissed off properly. So let's talk about it really. Bullying isn't just what the kids do in the playground and it's not just the belittling by your boss or the threatening behaviour of your ex. It's any behaviour that results in one person endeavouring to gain influence or control over another. Creating drama is a form of bullyi