I was a bit stunned recently listening to someone I know giving someone else an angry 'lecture' on how this person didn't seem to get the limitations she was under in terms of her job and those she worked for. The truth was she was feeling trapped and angry by what she saw as the limits of what was possible for her and was projecting her feelings around it onto the person who had "pushed that button" for her - not that she realised that. She was so sure she was right! I forgo

Someone has done something. You are so hurt. You are angry! You can feel the tightness in your chest, the feeling that something is stuck in the top of your throat, the burning in your eyes, the edginess in your arms and feet - you want to do something, hit out, say something cutting, but what? Breathe. Deep in through your nose. Strong exhale through your mouth. Stop for a minute. Think. Did this person do what they did intentionally? Was their purpose to stick it to you or